I thank God for allowing me to see another birthday. He’s faithful; I’m thankful. Here’s a few things I’ve learned and value over the past 30 years:
1. There is no normal. And if you define normal as ‘what everyone else is doing’, you’re in trouble.
2. Misery loves company. Avoid the pity parties to be happy.
3. Common sense isn’t common.
4. If you can’t accept it, change it. If you can’t change it, leave it.
5. Intimacy of the mind, body and spirit is so necessary. Get close. Be vulnerable.
6. Absence makes the heart grow further no fonder. Out of sight, out of mind.
7. When you take things for granted, the things you are granted get taken.
8. People make time for who/what they want. If they’re not invested, there’s no need to wait or second guess it.
The greatest reflection of your priorities is your time.
9. Emulate a pencil; have a point.
10. People make choices. Choices make people.
11. Learn the vocabulary of silence. There is power in silence and it speaks volumes. Don’t believe me? Don’t respond to your next incoming text message.
12. Watch and learn because asked questions won’t always give you answers.
13. Lunch loosens lips.
14. Truth trumps facts.
15. Change your parking spot every once in a while to avoid stalkers.
16. Over-dressed is better than under-dressed.
17. Ginger, vitamin water, Epsom salt, eucalyptus, Vicks vapor rub and Icy Hot are my cure alls.
18. Before you assume; ask. Presumption is the lowest order of knowledge.
19. There’s nothing wrong with venting, if your next step is fixing.
20. God’s delay is not denial. It’s a set up “for a time such as this.” However “this time” is not everytime. Recognize your season and the season of others.
21. Revelation brings transformation. If you/things aren’t changing, you’re not learning.
22. People will show you who they are. Time will tell. Patterns will present. You gotta watch.
23. Love is not blind; we choose not to see.
It sees more, not less but b/c it sees more, it is willing to see less.
24. You can’t change people. You can only love them. Love starts with acceptance. Love should increase, inspire and improve.
25. Chilling leads to children. Stop spending time with people for short term pleasure when you don’t see them as long term potential. You’re wasting time hoping, praying and waiting.
26. Show your raising. Our behavior is a reflection of our thoughts and beliefs. What is your behavior saying? What is your body language portraying? Are your actions aligned with your words?
27. Saying what you “feel” isn’t always needed or wanted. Think before you speak. Is it necessary?
28. Feelings are fickle. They change daily. They change momentarily. So don’t over think things. Under think it.
29. Consecrate your emotions. Don’t let your emotions come before your purpose.
30. Listen… to the verbals and non-verbals.
31. AND WHEN ALL ELSE FAILS… Keep calm like Beyonce in the elevator.
Live Life. Learn Love.
Live Love. Learn Life.
Therapeutically speaking,
La’Conya Patrice
LMFT
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